Where To Begin
Do you wonder why some people/families are able to transform into a stronger unit after the divorce while others are constantly fighting? Why some people’s finances are destroyed, yet others are strong? Why some kids are fine after divorce, yet others are a wreck? Most people want to be happier after their divorce is over, and how you begin the process and the initial choices you make will have a huge impact on your happiness. I have worked with thousands of families, so I understand what it takes for people to transition into the life they want.
FIRST Be certain that divorce is right for you. Some people are not sure, and second-guess their decision as they go through the process, which makes things much more difficult. A planned separation can help people know for sure.
SECOND Understand your legal options. When do you fight? When do you work it out? Sometimes litigation, duking it out in court is necessary to protect oneself or their assets. Other times working together towards a dissolution will get you the best results because of the money you save in attorney fees. Litigation tends to be $15,000 - $70,000 per perosn in attorney fees. Mediation or negotiation can be less than a few thousand dollars per couple.
THIRD Choose your attorney and legal option wisely. Some attorneys only fight. Some attorneys only know how to cave in. A good attorney knows how to protect while negotiating for your best interests. If you mediate, choose a divorce mediator so you can be certain all your issues are properly addressed.
The legal option you choose will have the biggest impact on your divorce. Litigation, when a case is argued in court, pit people against each other, which wreaks havoc on their long-term well-being and their finances. You have other choices that will help you to achieve a dissolution, meaning you will have agreements in place before you file. These options will help you achieve the results you want while preserving your emotional well-being and your finances. Think about how you want your life to look five years from now. Do you want to be arguing with your ex? Or do you want to have a mutual and respectful relationship with your ex?
When people litigate, they will be more inclined to be arguing five years after their divorce. When people file for a dissolution, they are more likely to be amicable with each other five years after they divorce.
Contact us for a free consultation. Let’s talk and discuss what makes the most sense for you and your family.